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Text taken from the Telegram channel of prorivists (Nikita Bystrov)
[ColonelCassad] Patriotic bloggers have once again raised the topic of divorce, blaming it all on... poverty. It turns out, according to VTsIOM, 46% of respondents cited "financial difficulties" as the reason for divorce. How financial difficulties turned into poverty isn't entirely clear, as they're far from the same thing. Financial difficulties can also occur in wealthy families. A husband didn't buy his wife the car he wanted—that's a "financial difficulty." Or the inability to afford a mortgage enslavement of 150-200 thousand a month—isn't that a "financial difficulty?" A wife's unwillingness to go to work, believing her husband should support her—is that also a "financial difficulty"?
True, there are also men who believe only the wife should work... Interestingly, according to the same survey, "destructive partner behavior" is in second place, followed by "broken communication within the family," followed by "loss of family values," "incompatibility of spouses," and "unpreparedness for family life." Meanwhile, for example, only 5% of women reported assault. It's clear that bourgeois sociologists do everything possible to conceal the cause of the problem, composing their questionnaires in a convoluted, convoluted manner.
And patriotic bloggers add even more idiocy by interpreting these data in their own way. If you think about it, poverty—that is, low income that doesn't allow for the satisfaction of basic objective human needs—cannot be the cause of the increase in divorces. On the contrary, poor people in capitalist conditions band together precisely to solve material problems.
For example, two working spouses are much more likely to afford a mortgage than a single person. It's much easier for two people to bear the costs of raising a child. Conversely, divorce often worsens the financial situation of both. Running a joint household is more profitable than running a separate one. In fact, the VTsIOM data suggests a different conclusion: the number of divorces has increased due to societal changes that have deformed the human personality. And if we're talking about the cause, there's one fundamental reason: private property relations, which exist in their most developed form in capitalist society. These relations increasingly encompass relationships between people in society, even permeating relationships between men and women.
A hired worker sees nothing wrong with selling their labor power to a capitalist for wages. In fact, they're selling themselves, their lives, since working time accounts for at least half of their waking hours. Having sold one part of their life, why not sell the rest, or at least exchange it for something? Moreover, the capitalist commoner views everything through the prism of profit. This means not simply exchanging, but exchanging it profitably. "A profitable marriage," "married profitably"—these nasty formulas existed even in Soviet times, where the destructive nature of private property relations, alas, had not been eradicated.
Nowadays, women in the commoner class tend to view their attractiveness as an object of exchange for a man's ability to sell his labor at a higher price. The commoner, on the other hand, often views women's attractiveness as a commodity to be acquired. And what are commonly called feelings are often a derivative of a peculiar transaction called "marriage." However, bourgeois psychotherapists go so far as to attribute sexual attraction to a man's ability to earn money (read: sell himself profitably). In short, expecting stability and long-term viability from a deal struck between two egotists seeking personal gain is simply unwise. As soon as a marriage ceases to be beneficial for one party, that party unilaterally withdraws from the agreement.
The situation is complicated by the fact that capitalism simplifies the human personality. Intellectually highly developed people capable of conscious altruism, the key to a long and happy life together, are unfortunately few and far between. People with primitive thinking, formed in bourgeois society, are capable only of consumption, of satisfying only their own needs, and therefore are not far removed from animals. Such people simply have little interest in each other; their life together, at best, is devoted to maintaining a shared household. They are fortunate if they have the human qualities to overcome material problems together.
No "fight against poverty" will help reverse this trend. For example, in my observations, material wealth has no impact on the stability of family unions. There are numerous examples of people who are quite financially secure getting divorced. Moreover, the financial success of one spouse very often becomes the reason for divorce, at their own initiative. After all, in their eyes, the other spouse becomes "unpromising," a "loser," and they begin to believe they "deserve more." Frankly, I have never met a single, idealistic entrepreneur who was happily married. A person for whom money is the highest value is, by definition, incapable of a happy family life. Private property relations, the ideology of personal success, consumerism, and egoism are the true gravediggers of happy and long marriages.
(c) Nikita Bystrov
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