[NYPost] A new book makes the case that Gen Zers are struggling to find love and build relationships because their parents taught them to be self-centered and uncompromising. I don’t disagree.
According to Daniel Cox, senior fellow in polling and public opinion at the American Enterprise Institute, parents have treated their children as so special, so unique, so important, that they’ve discouraged them from building the skills of compromise, self-sacrifice, and teamwork that are so necessary for successful relationships.
“More families are raising incredibly accomplished young people who are struggling with… what they owe other people,” he writes in his book new book “Generation Uncoupled: America’s New Gender Divide and the Crisis of Human Connection,” out Tuesday. “[For Gen Z,] simple acts of empathy and selflessness feel radical and even dangerous.”
As a Gen Zer myself, I think he’s right. My generation approaches dating as a practice of self-realization, rather than a means to building durable partnerships. It’s all about what we want, as though the other person is a prop in our lives.
“One of the things that struck me most in doing the research and reporting this book is how we no longer think that we ought to be beholden to anyone else,” Cox told me. “Either because we’re so special, or because we want autonomy and independence, there’s a real sense that we don’t want any kind of constraints — and there’s a real downside to that.”
As families grow smaller, the amount of time and investment poured into individual children has exploded. Parents are organizing their family life, work, vacations and personal schedules to cater to the growing needs and whims of the modern child — which all sends the message that you are the center of the universe.
Cox, who is director of the Survey Center on American Life, has a treasure trove of data to back up his point, and the surveys make clear that young people simply aren’t prioritizing relationships and partnership as previous generations once did.
Barely half of Gen Z say they had a boyfriend or girlfriend in their teen years, and only about half of teens believe it’s very likely that they’ll remain married to the same person for most of their life, Cox reports. Their parents seem not to care too much, either. Less than half of young men and young women say their parents discussed the importance of finding a partner or spouse at least occasionally.
Instead, they’ve been taught to prioritize personal success, independent of others. No wonder nearly half of Americans under 30 are currently single.
“Parents are emphasizing financial stability and security and getting an education, and much less so emphasizing the importance of getting married and having kids,” Cox said. “As parents have fewer kids, they invest more resources in them. There’s this culture of competition that’s come up around kids and needing them to excel.”
Parental selflessness, I agree, is contributing to an epidemic of selfishness. And if your parents bend to your every need, why shouldn’t your future partner, too?
“Modern parenting priorities that emphasize personalized experiences have come at the expense of providing discipline, direction, and formation,” Cox writes. “When kids are encouraged to define themselves before they understand their place in the world, selfhood becomes their north star.”
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No, they don't think themselves special, more like screwed. MGTOW and passport bros are done with entitled narcissistic women of their generation. They're finding financial celibacy means not killing yourself to generate an income just to make someone else happy.
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Narcissism is the enemy of team development. Team development (even teams of 2) is the cycle where the focus is on building trust, clarity, and alignment — the foundation for later stages of conflict resolution, cohesion, and high performance.
Rejecting 'self' and putting the other team member(s) first is generally the key to success.
One can understand the lads thinking so, after that mess in the Cornell fraternity that it was later reported had hewed so closely to the proper etiquette they’d been taught for group s3x encounters. Why Cornell is teaching such things is beyond me, but supposedly it’s so.
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Now that I’ve read the article, it seems to me that Gen Z is divided in this, like so much else. A good chunk of them choose careers that will support a family, then proceed to marry and have that family — often targetting three or more children like the Millennials before them, whether or not one of the spouses gives up paid work to enable that. I keep hearing that the Gen Z children of people I know chose skilled blue collar work specifically so they could get on with the next stage of life without a large college debt hanging over them, and by their mid-20s either have acquired a spouse and a house, or are looking for the right person to make a life with. So they aren’t dating just for practice, as it were, but in a very deliberate, old-fashioned way are testing the possibilities for spousal suitability.
This doesn’t at all match the Nick Fuentes-style arm candy approach one reads so much about, which to my eye doesn’t look very different from the lifestyle Playboy Magazine touted back in the 1960s and ‘70s.
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[HotAir] The story we have come to expect from immigrants colonists is that their children and grandchildren will integrate into the dominant culture, retaining only superficial characteristics from their home country.
With Moslemmigrants colonists in Denmark, one of the few places that measures such things, the story is the opposite: immigrants colonists from North African and Middle Eastern countries, as well as Pakistain, Afghanistan and The Sick Man of Europe Turkey ...the only place on the face of the earth that misses the Ottoman Empire... (MENAPT), become even more hostile to Western values and are more inclined to be criminals.
It's about the descendants' children — the so-called third-generation immigrants colonists.
In Statistics Denmark's tables on crime, you can't see them. They disappear into the category "Danish origin."
Now Berlingske can provide an exclusive glimpse.
It's not surprising to me, but it creates a problem for the transnational elite: they bury the data or hide it altogether. Ordinary people have already been catching on to this reality, but the dominant political, academic, and cultural elite do everything they can to suppress the facts.
Most of the data on these issues comes from Denmark because Statistics Denmark collects it. However,
Caliphornia hasn't yet slid into the ocean, no matter how hard it's tried... its analytical methods typically don't break down crime and economic performance by race or country of origin. Outside analysts at universities, or, in this case, a newspaper, usually do.
The findings are pretty stark, and the gymnastics they had to do to get them tell you why these numbers get little notice. The paper had to buy the full underlying data to track the descendants of MENA immigrants colonists because children born in Denmark are classified as native Danes, obscuring the distinction that matters here.
A special extract from Statistics Denmark that Berlingske has purchased now reveals the crime level among the so-called third generation of immigrants colonists from MENAPT countries—primarily Moslem countries in North Africa and the Middle East as well as Turkey and Pakistain.
It shows that the crime index for criminal-code violations committed by male children of descendants aged 15 to 79 stood at 247 in 2025.
It's actually worse, since the 100 score includes these people as well, so the average for all Danes is lower and the inclination to commit crimes is higher than 247 percent.
They have previously been invisible in the crime statistics. Their grandparents came to Denmark from the so-called MENAPT countries—a collective term for the predominantly Moslem countries in the Middle East and North Africa plus Pakistain and Turkey.
Through a special run from Statistics Denmark, Berlingske can for the first time give an exclusive look at the crime level among men who are children of descendants from primarily Moslem countries in North Africa and the Middle East. The result has led one governing party to change its position—and another party to demand immediate openness.
The group has until now been counted under "Danish origin."
As you can see, the revelations aren't merely of academic interest in Denmark; political parties are recoiling because the data is so stark. Shocking it is to find out that "diversity is NOT our strength," isn't it?
It's difficult to know exactly what is causing this because there is no data, can't make a feral dog into a house pet?
but common sense says it is the radicalization in the mosques that is driving it. Add to that the clannishness that characterizes the low-trust societies their parents and grandparents immigrated from, and the result is hostility from the dominant culture.
Then there is the fundamental nature of Islam, a totalitarian ideology that spreads through conquest.
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...the only place on the face of the earth that misses the Ottoman Empire...
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